What’s in a Name?

What does your name mean to you? And, what would it take for you to change it?

My name, I’ve obviously had it all my life. 

The first day of school was always fun, a teacher would  say “Nicole,” then the pause would come along with a look of confusion.  I’d always pipe up and fill in the Misencik for them.  I’ll admit, Misencik looks intimidating, it’s not a “normal” last name.  Sounding it out sometimes helps, but I’ve found that phonetically writing it is a little easier to take.  Misencik:  Miss-in-sick.  Besides the question of how to pronounce my last name, I’m always asked, where is it from? Well, the origin of my last name is Czechoslovakian.

So, with such a hard last name, you’d think that I would jump at the chance to change it. 

I got engaged over the summer, and I’m tying the knot in April.  Right after I announced my engagement, two questions were asked, when’s the wedding, and will you change your name.  To be perfectly honest, I never thought that far ahead.  We just got engaged, why are people asking us to set a date so quickly?

Nonetheless, the date is set, and now the name change question comes.

So will I change my name?  The answer… drum roll please… no. 

I’ll admit his name sounds good with mine, Nicole Kline.  Simple to say, and not as confusing as Misencik.

But, Misencik is my name.  It’s a hard one, but it’s also memorable.  I’m that Nicole girl with the weird last name.  It’s been my name all my life, and I would like to keep it.  I could hyphen it, but wow, that’s really a mouthful!

So, there you have it, my weird offbeat name will stay with me.  It’s what I was given at birth, and it’s what I intend to keep professionally and personally.

8 thoughts on “What’s in a Name?”

  1. don’t hyphen it but change it. Niccole Misencik Kline. Your professional name remains Nicole Misencik but yoir legal name includes your new married last name. It means dropping your middle name (assuming you have one).

  2. Nicole,
    My wife, like you, has an unusual name and is very well known in her industry so when we got married I suggested she keep her name. Changing the name wasn’t that important to me. Admittedly, people, friends and family are still a little confused when sending us mail as to what name to use and our church, most of the time, will use my last name on mail to her. (I guess they want her to change) So my advise is to keep your name and deal with the confusion later. Good luck to you and your future husband.

    PS…he will problable be called by your name from time to time. Happens to me all the time. Just have fun with it.
    By the way, I enjoy your weather reporting.


  3. I kept my name as well. I couldn’t part with it. :) I like it, it works, and I’ve always had it. The fact that my husband is so cool with this just reinforces why I love him and why I married him.
    Congrats on your upcoming wedding! :)

  4. My wife didn’t change her name either. Sometimes there is confusion but with all the hassle involved she didn’t pursue it. At first I wanted her to change it but the more I thought about it the more I realized it didn’t matter. We love each other and our family and friends don’t mind once they got used to it.
    The only time it becomes an issue is with travel or AAA but even that isn’t that bid of a deal.

    Keep up the great work! I really enjoyed your cupcake report, you were obviously having great fun with that one!

  5. I agree completely! I changed mine, but I wish I hadn’t. I just am who I am, and that Is ‘Amber Nicole ____’ *insert maiden name here :)

    If/when you have children what will their last name(s) be?

  6. It seems that over the past 10 – 15 years the traditional marriage ‘process’ has been lost. Isn’t the point of the marriage a union of husband and wife? It is also getting common for the couple to keep seperate checking/savings accounts too. That’s a whole other debate. If people aren’t wanting to join as one and start their own family, with one identity, then why not just live together and keep things seperated? Hyphenated last names are just as bad. The poor children and others will have to deal with such a short-sited decision as well.

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